I was stuck. Really stuck. Sound familiar? After a series of failed attempts to gain clarity or a new direction forward, I hired a coach. And then I quit my job. Did I feel like I was making a risky change? Yep. Did I think financial failure and long-term unemployment would ruin me? Yep. Did I have to battle my own demons of inadequacy and fear? Absolutely, and I still battle them.
In retrospect, leaping off that cliff (quitting my job) bolstered my self-confidence in a way that fuels and inspires me to this day. And you know what? I proved to myself that I am a capable badass who can do new and scary things and still survive. But Clark, lots of people make big changes all the time. Yes, of course they do. Until I did it for myself, there was no way I could have believed it was possible for me.
What a transformative realization: until I did it for myself, there was no way I could have believed it was possible for me.
I am intrigued and inspired by change and resilience. I put this to good use over twelve years in a victim advocacy career, and the people I served challenged me to stretch and grow. Still, even helpers need help. When I hired a coach, I received the feedback, accountability and structure I needed in order to make a big life change doable.
Being a coach for others fuels my desire to be of service in practical and meaningful ways. It is one piece of the puzzle in my quest to make sense of myself in relationship to the world. Coaching lets me be an awareness alchemist, and partner with people who are drawn to growth and new perspectives.
Speaking of change: twenty years ago, I transitioned from female to male. I’m a gay man. Queer and feminist lenses inform much of how I make sense of the world. I believe in intersectionality. I’m still learning how to be anti-racist.
I like lists for their practical and aesthetic properties, so here’s more of what you get with me:
- Curious, curious, curious about this, that, and that other thing too
- Scorpio moon & Capricorn sun: let’s go deep and let’s get shit done
- Generally optimistic, but also salty
- Follows the recipe when baking but unafraid to substitute/experiment/add nuts
- Cocktail parties and small-talk? I’ll pass
- Strengths-based approach
Here’s a mixtape of songs that remind me of change.